tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post1943256692373220911..comments2023-10-18T04:53:53.843-07:00Comments on Finnian's Journey: Flashbulb MemoriesLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07604477175816651214noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post-30564429523568138932008-11-22T15:07:00.000-08:002008-11-22T15:07:00.000-08:00I can also vividly remember the day we found out J...I can also vividly remember the day we found out Jenna had Trisomy 18. I had on my striped maternity shirt. I had done two interviews that day. <BR/><BR/>None of my doctors recommended terminating either, just gave me my options, and Trisomy 18 is pretty much always fatal. In fact, my doctors all said they wouldn't even have mentioned it as an option if Jenna had had Down Syndrome or Spina Bifida.Mrs. Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11548716422011525616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post-5761356973147533472008-11-20T20:49:00.000-08:002008-11-20T20:49:00.000-08:00I love your recap of these memories. So similar to...I love your recap of these memories. So similar to how I felt. I love the idea of Finn telling you first. Beautiful memories and difficult, painful memories all at the same time.The Sanchez Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02193773268823617205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post-10558735121341561662008-11-20T07:35:00.000-08:002008-11-20T07:35:00.000-08:00I found out about Evan's DS in a completely differ...I found out about Evan's DS in a completely different way, and I'm so glad it happened the way it did. It's funny how we think that; how we can't imagine it happening any differently. I guess it's one more way we try to see the positive side of things.<BR/><BR/>We found out prenatally. I am very much pro-choice. And I found out in time to terminate, if that was my choosing. If you had asked me before I was pregnant if I would have terminated a baby with DS, I most likely would have said yes. But once he was there, inside, kicking around, and I knew about his DS, I couldn't imagine doing it.<BR/><BR/>I think I was fortunate, too, that neither my OB (who is wonderful), or the perinatologist (who delivered the diagnosis), or the geneticist (whom we met with subsequently) pushed for termination. Who knows what I would have done, in that fragile emotional state, if they had? I really can't say. I think that people in that situation are so, so vulnerable, and so prone to be influenced by someone in a so-called position of power, like doctors. It's scary to think about.<BR/><BR/>Okay. Sorry to blog in your comments! Just wanted to say that I, too, have flashbulb memories, that come back when I least expect it. They are getting less frequent, though, as the years go by.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340382856096365272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post-83401413224479803722008-11-20T04:58:00.000-08:002008-11-20T04:58:00.000-08:00Oh yes. I don't think I will ever forget that mom...Oh yes. I don't think I will ever forget that moment when we were told about Dylan. <BR/>But you know what's funny? Right after he was born...I mean as soon as they handed him to me after he was delivered, I turned to Dave and said, "Hm, look at his eyes?! They look different.".<BR/>So, maybe in my own little way, I suspected something as well? <BR/>I like what you said about Finn being the first to let you know. I never thought of it that way, but I suppose it may have been a little like that with D.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00128989346808056402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502307737528869885.post-55329405049507995002008-11-19T18:54:00.000-08:002008-11-19T18:54:00.000-08:00In a way, I wish my memories were as clear as your...In a way, I wish my memories were as clear as yours. It kinda makes me feel bad sometimes that I've blocked out the details.Crittlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08868628035597050680noreply@blogger.com