Monday, November 17, 2008

Can I Rant?

Grrrr, I am so mad!!

Usually when a baby is born in the hospital, the hospital takes care of getting the baby's birth certificate and Social Security number. Because Finn was born at home, we've had to take care of those things on our own. And I am fine with that, really. It's a small price to pay for being able to have a birth free from a lot of pointless hospital protocols and restrictions.

So we went down to the County Health Dept. office a while back and got Finn's birth certificate, as I posted here at the time. The next thing on the agenda is to get a Social Security number issued to him (this is probably something I would just put on the back burner for a while except for the fact that we can't claim him as a dependent/tax deduction until he has a SSN).

I went down to the local Social Security office last week with all the paperwork I was supposed to have. I had both Finn and Lilah with me (I only point this out to give a truer picture of the inconvenience factor - dragging a baby and a toddler to a government office where waiting will be involved - not fun). I got there and the deal is, you take a number and wait to be called. There were about 30 people ahead of us waiting for their numbers to be called (no exaggerating). It was standing room only. I said "Forget this, I'll come back." So I went back this morning - again with Finn and Lilah in tow - and I got there before the office even opened. Still there was a line of people waiting outside. So we all get inside when they open and take our numbers. I ended up waiting for about 30 minutes. Not too bad, really. Then my number is called, I go up to the window and give the woman my paperwork and the first words out of her mouth are "Why didn't you apply for a Social Security number in the hospital?" (Insert bitchy tone.) Why the hell do government workers have to be so rude? Okay, an unfair generalization, I admit. Let me rephrase: why do most government workers have to be so rude? So I told her that my baby was born at home. Why does it even matter? Why does it matter where he was born or why I didn't apply for a social in the hospital or from the cave in which he might have been born? The point was that I was there to get a freaking social for him and that's all she should concern herself with.

So she's looking over my paperwork over the top of her glasses perched on her nose which only adds to her condescending attitude. She then pushes the paperwork back across the counter at me and informs me that she can't accept Finn's birth certificate? WHAT?!? "It's a certified copy, I don't understand," I say. She points out to me that the date stamped on it as the issuance date is Sept. 29, 2008, but the date it was signed and registered was Oct. 1, and it's impossible that it was issued/certified before it was signed. Holy crap. I felt like she was accusing me of trying to pass off a fraudulent birth certificate or something. I really just felt like crying on the spot because I had already gone to all this trouble, and she was being so rude.

So it looks like the person who certified Finn's birth certificate made a mistake. The only thing I can figure is that she didn't change her date stamp to the new date. Who knows how many documents she date-stamped that day with the wrong date. So now I have to go get a freaking new birth certificate and then do the whole song and dance all over again with Social Security.



Leigh Anne said...

ugh. sorry. i hate that kind of stuff. i went through similar to get a new driver;s license in a new state. even though my married name was on the one from the original state, the new one had to have an official copy of my marriage was annoying as all crap!

i hope it goes better next time sweetie. hows the dom working?

Kristen said...

Ugh! That's yucky!I had to go to the Lakewood office when I realized they had the wrong birthday for me. I waited over 1.5 hours. THEN I was told I could've called a 800 number to make an appointment. Check it out for your local office before you go back, let me know if you would like me to watch the cuties!

Lisa B said...

ok first, the pics are ADORABLE! And second, what a Bitch! I mean both my kids were born at the hospital and I did not get cert copies of the birth certificates for them until Dec 2004 - Nate was born in June 2002 and Matt July 2004 - and that was when I got their socials too - I had other things on my mind other than the forms when they were born ya know! Anyway, I did it all by mail so maybe this time around do it that way to save the drive and tow along factor :) And if you need forms notarized I am a notary and am happy to do it for you to make things easier...Lisa

Jeanette said...

Don't you just HATE Bureaucracy? Sorry that you had to go through all of that! We got married on a beach in Rhode Island and my marriage certificate has two dates, the day we got married and the next date where city hall signed it. So technically and legally our anniversary is the day AFTER we got married. Ugh!

Basket full o' Plums said...

Bleh. That reminds me that I haven't applied for Min's SS# yet. I have to bring 45 different documents and copies of translations and all this stacks of legal blah blah with me in order to apply and I haven't had the nerve to go in a do it. Your story doesn't make me more eager. I hope it can get straightened out without too much more hoops.

Carla said...

Sorry it's been such a hassle. I'm surprised there wasn't a place on the birth certificate app to check that you wanted a SS# issued. Teagan was born at home too. When I went downtown to fill out the birth cert, it was essentially the same as the hospital form, so I just checked the box and the SS card arrived in the mail weeks later. Seems like every state could make it that convenient.

And I agree. What's the difference where he was born or why you didn't apply for a SS# before? You need one now. Geesh. I don't think govt workers have any cust service training.