I had to take Lilah to the pedi this morning (can a single week go by without some kind of doctor's appointment for someone in my house?!), and as we were waiting for the elevator on our way out, a woman came up behind me with a baby in a stroller, and she was cooing and chattering away to the baby. I look over and sure as shit, the baby has Ds. And I just stood there, wanting so much to say something, and not knowing what to say. I mean, really, someone please tell me what is the appropriate way to approach these situations? I thought that after my encounter last week with the family at Joey's Open House that I would feel emboldened about approaching parents with kids who have Ds, but I still feel really unsure of myself. I have this almost overpowering urge to connect with them, but nothing comes out of my mouth, and I end up standing there, gawking like a fool. I guess I'm still afraid of that 1% chance that I'm wrong in my assumption that their child has Ds, and then completely offending someone.
So the opportunity was lost; we got on separate elevators and that was the end of that. Afterwards I was thinking what I could have done was say to her, "Oh, looks like we're in the same club!" And then theatrically turn Finn around so she can see his face and then just know, you know? That way I'm not taking the chance of wrongly assuming her child has Ds - by referring to a "club," I could just mean that we're both moms.
Do I sound desperate? Or just psychotic?
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