Anyway, it went okay. I think Eun wants to respect where I'm coming from with all this, but she's clearly working through her own filter. She's been trained to believe that the more therapy, the better. Just like obstetricians are trained to believe that hospitals are always the safest place for babies to be born. Just because they believe that based on their education and training does not make it an absolute truth.
So Eun kept saying things like, "Kids who are pushed usually reach their milestones quicker . . . but I understand if that's not what you want to do . . ." and "I understand that you don't want to do things that upset him and make him cry, but the truth is, they don't really remember things before the age of three, so . . ." It wasn't adversarial, but I just listened and refused to defend myself. I just nodded a lot.
Here's what I know to be true: Finn is nowhere near walking. I am okay with that. I know he will walk eventually. There is nothing about Down syndrome that precludes walking eventually. Eun may say that kids who are pushed do things sooner, but I know that there are lots of kids out there who get mega therapy, and some of them still don't walk until after their second birthday. Finn is healthy and he is happy. He is loved, and he feels that. We are giving him as close to a "typical" babyhood as possible. That has value.
Even Eun saw that he is able to stand supported and bear weight on his legs - when he wants to. It's not lack of ability, it's lack of wanting to on his part. I don't know what's behind that. I'm not overly worried about it. We'll just keep trying to motivate him. He'll get there when he's ready.
We won't see her again until after the new year, and then Finn's next eval/IFSP is due in February. Eun wants us to think about switching to group therapy at a developmental preschool at that point, where Finn would receive PT, OT and ST at each session. Sigh. I don't know how I feel about it. It's a lot to think about.