Monday, October 20, 2008

Wow - now I'm angry!

Some coward posted this comment here on my blog and then deleted it after they were sure that it had landed in my email inbox:

Dear Lisa, I have visited your blog a number of times and
thought how sad it was that you seem so 'angry' about your sweet Finn and his
diagnosis of Ds. I wanted to write when I read your post about 'random
thoughts', it seemes so clear to me that you are really struggling and in denial
about much when it comes to this angel that was sent to you. I chose not to but
just prayed for you. However, after reading this post I see why you are in the
place you are in. Even in looking at pictures of you, you can see the anger and
hardness in your face, no softness or beauty. I am sorry to be so harsh with my
words. But when I read the part where you don't believe in God, I felt compelled
to atleast ask you, for your childrens sake, to entertain that option for your
life... to believe... He will not fail you and will soften your heart if you
allow Him to.You are in my prayers, as is that sweet child that it seems so
difficult for you to fully embrace... God bless his sweet soul.P.S. I know your
comments come to your email so I will delete this comment from the board after a
few minutes so that it is for your eyes only ~ my intent is not to embarrass
you.Ricki


All I can say is: WOW. I guess if you have a public blog, you have to expect the occasional wacko. Ya know what? I'm not even going to dignify this with a response. The people who know me - really know me - would tell a different story about me, I'm sure.

17 comments:

Jodi said...

I'm so glad you posted this. And perhaps it should go into the "what not to say" section of your previous blog!!!!

As I've mentioned before, I think you're incredibly brave to share your anger, frustration, and struggle on this blog. You don't deserve to be judged for that.

All I see in your pictures is love and beauty (not to mention quite the hot date night pic). I don't understand how anyone could read your blog and not see that? How could anyone question your love for Finn, inherent in your struggle with Down syndrome is the intense protective love of what may be in store for him.

I'm hurt and angry on your behalf so I can't imagine how hurtful it must have been to read.

hapagirlhapafamily said...

Lisa, I'm sorry that someone left such a comment like that! The point of us blogging is to share the different emotions we all go through! I appreciate your thoughts and your words, because they are very similar to what I felt and probably still sometimes feel. We all grieve in our own way and NO ONE can tell us how to do it!

Mrs. Mother said...

I am so sorry some idiot made that kind of comment to you.

T-rex said...

Oh geez, we know I'm about as Fundie as they come and she is a BITCH for saying those awful things. Walk a mile, Ricki, walk a mile. Prayer isn't an excuse to pass judgment on the character of others when they are in a difficult place. It's not a weapon.

Leigh Anne said...

Exactly t-rex! I couldn't have said it better. "Prayer is not a weapon." It's so easy for someone outside of the situation (Ricki) to be able to say such things. I am sorry there is such rudeness in the world Lisa.

glathreea said...

Wow! Lisa,I have always admired your honesty on this blog. To let us see the real emotion that you have and the real feelings you have. I have so much respect for you. I think it's obvious how much you love Finn and all of your children.
I'm so sorry that you had to read that nasty letter.

Alyson (alyny)

Amanda said...

I am de-lurking to say that I do not get what that woman got from your blog AT ALL. What I get from reading your blog is someone who is very honest about how she is feeling, and someone who has embraced her newborn with all the love she has for all of her other children.

Kristina said...

If you have nothing nice or considerate to say, don't say anything at all!

There have been times while reading your blog that I've wanted to comment on something you've said that I didn't agree with. BUT, I didn't because you are still digesting the fact that Finn has Ds and you need to voice your concerns and feelings to get to a "better" place. It's a shame that some can't read, sympathizes, or just move on.

BTW: I've "known" you since before Finn was born and your photos are still just as beautiful!

Tricia said...

I'm astounded that someone would attack you for your honesty. There is no doubt in my mind that you love Finn (and your entire family) deeply. No one can say what is "the correct" way to deal with a diagnosis of ANY sort. And to even MENTION your religious beliefs? I am just flabbergasted and very sorry that you had to deal with that kind of behavior. If that person found you through 31 for 21 I am sorry and they have COMPLETELY missed the point.

heather said...

I just wanted to add that I too have appreciated your honesty and straight forward posts. Don't let her comments get to you. She is just one reader out of so very many that enjoy and love your openness and following your journey with Finn! Don't let her get the best of you! Sending lots of hugs your way!

Jen said...

Well, clearly, this person is crazy. That's all I can say about it. Unbelievable.

Kristen said...

I am shocked! Ricki should be embarrassed. You are such a caring person towards others and even more so, you are true to yourself. Since meeting you through MOMS You have been an inspiration to me, you are "Super Woman".

I am sorry that someone thought it was okay to challenge your beliefs. This is the 2nd blog I've read in two days like this! This is America people!

Thank you for sharing with us.

Carla said...

My mother is a born again Christian and she would be appalled at Ricki's (if that is his or her real name) comments to you. That is simply the most un-christian thing I have ever read; she gives Christianity a bad name. I agree with the others; do not let his or her comments make you pause or lose sleep. Move on my dear Lisa with all the beautiful love and light that I see in every picture of you and your family and have had the privilege to experience first-hand.

datri said...

It really bugs me when people expect you, especially if you blog, to be positive about Down syndrome. I'll admit sometimes it sucks. And I admire your honesty in sharing those feelings.

Cleo said...

Lisa, I was very upset when I first read this post. Now, that I’m calm just want to say that you have the right to write whatever you feel like writing in your blog. You have the right to feel whatever is that you are feeling about anything at any given moment. You have the right to believe or not believe in whatever you wish to. Nobody can judge and/or condemn you for anything. The people that can really “see” and “get” what you mean, understand and appreciate your writing and know you love Finn as much as you love your other children.

Cindy said...

I am soooooooo dang sickened by that comment. I don't get how your soul and that of your children are in needing prayers?

I personally believe in God, but understand that not everyone does. It does not mean one is greater than the next in any way. I am just flabbergasted!

Oh, and the kindness of her to delete it so that you can deal with it on your own without embarrassment? Seriously... That sounds like a sadistic person who wants to say some things and not get caught by the public.

You are a real person with real feelings. No one can judge the way you feel or heal!

Ok... I am sorry, I am just so pissed by that comment. I can only imagine how you feel too.

Lisa B said...

Wow - can't believe someone felt the need and right to say all of that to you - well Ricki, in case you are reading the comments, I can tell you Lisa TOTALLY embraces her son, just as she does her other lovely 5 children - and her friends all embrace her! She and her husband have a relationship anyone would be envious of and the entire family is tight - love, acceptance - they have it all. Lisa conducts her life with total intergrity and honesty - something I doubt you know much about. Do us all a favor and pray for your self-centered, judgmental and likely hypocrital self and leave Lisa and her kids out of it!