I don't know what are appropriate toys to get him. I know that I'm supposed to keep my expectations of his abilities high, but what's too high? Should I expect that he'll be able to do a shape sorter or a ball pounder some time over the next year? I'm suddenly afraid of getting him things that will set him up for failure. Should I be looking at toys for 6 month olds? I wandered up and down the aisle, suddenly wishing that I had his therapists' phone numbers with me so I could call them and ask them to advise me on what to get him for his birthday. And then I felt mad and frustrated for not being able to make a judgment myself as to what is appropriate for him, and for feeling like every toy has to be theraputic in some way. As much as I want to just treat him like a child, and not a child with delays or disabilities, it's always there in my mind to some degree . . . sometimes right there in my face, and sometimes hovering at the edges of my consciousness.
I ended up getting him a few things that hopefully he'll like . . . maybe even be motivated and stimulated by. More than likely, his siblings will commandeer them for themselves just because they're new things.
I'm probably overthinking this whole thing.