Eun actually showed up this morning for Finn's regularly scheduled weekly PT, as she had not yet been notified by our SC that we had decided to decrease therapy. I explained to Eun what we have decided, and why, all the while thinking that she would lay into me for not doing what's best for Finn, and instead, she was completely supportive. She confirmed so much of what I already feel - that therapy shouldn't be a one-size-fits-all approach, that it has to fit in to each individual family's lifestyle and philosophy, that there are no guaranteed outcomes with lots of therapy vs. a little, and that nobody knows Finn or has his best interests at heart more than we, his family, do. She is completely willing to come over once a month to give us some direction.
And I talked to Amber, our SC, on the phone later in the morning, and she is fine with us decreasing services. Although I sort of expected a lecture from her, I also know that with all the budget cuts, she might be okay with our decision for that reason alone. Whatever her reasoning, she seems to support our decision and she assured me that if, in a few months, we feel that more services would be in order again, there would not be any problem with that.
She confirmed what Andres, the OT, said the other day, that he is only taking on weekly clients at this time. She asked me if I wanted her to find another OT who would be willing to come out once a month, or if I'd rather put OT on hold for now, and I opted to put it on hold, since I really haven't seen a great benefit from it for Finn anyway.
I feel really relieved about all this.
In other news, last night was Back to School Night for Joey, who is now a second grader. His teacher was explaining to the parents how all second graders are screened for the GATE program. GATE is Gifted and Talented Education - it's the public school program in California for "gifted" students (Kevin went through GATE) that begins in the third grade. Anyway, so the teacher is explaining this to the parents, and he said, "GATE stands for Gifted and Talented Education, which I think is a terrible name for it. Just because a kid gets into that program doesn't mean he's smarter, and just because a kid doesn't get into it doesn't mean he's not as smart. All it means is that the kids who qualify for that program fit into a different learning profile." This struck me so much. I mean, this could be applied to kids like Finn, too, you know? Retarded? What the hell is that, anyway? Doesn't it really just mean that they fit into a different learning profile? I like this guy. This is someone I'd like on our side.
And yet in other news, when I went to pick the twins up from kindergarten a little while ago, I saw a little girl on campus in line with some other kids. The little girl had Down syndrome. I had been told that there is a first grade girl with Ds attending our school in a regular classroom, so this must be her. Of course she was adorable. I have no idea what her story is or how it's going for her at school, but, I'll tell you, seeing her there made me feel really good.